Believing in Yourself – The Key to Success

The Saying is True

With anything — not just writing and attempting to be your own boss/working from home — you need to believe in yourself. I know that sounds cliché or lame, but it’s undoubtedly true.

Believing in yourself, or having confidence, is a tough proposition if it’s not something you’re familiar with. Trying to get something off the ground feels almost impossible, especially on certain days. Ohh, the dark days… and I’m not talking about the weather. I personally struggle with this, though I’m most confident when I’m writing (hence my blog). I tell myself I can do it, that I can actually achieve success, but it’s not always so easy to maintain a positive mindset. But, I mean, if you say it enough, you start to believe it. Kind of like negative self-talk, only this way of thinking is much healthier for the mind!

What Do You Want To Do?

Now, I’m not saying to be unrealistic. We all have those dreams that are unrealistic. But what are you practically working toward? What are you striving for? It’s crucial to figure out what it is that you really want out of life, both for the short-term and the long-term.

Do you want to be a writer? Do you want to be able to earn a full-time income from home? I do — and I’m just starting the process of working toward those goals. So who am I to instruct about all this stuff simply being a novice? Well, it’s part of documenting my journey. For years, I’ve wanted those things, but I totally lacked the confidence part. I didn’t have it, so it didn’t happen. (That’s like Life 101, am I right?) Another mistake I made: I didn’t have a clear goal in mind, so I was missing both of those two key elements. Although my goals are still a bit hazy right now, they are more concrete.

Research, Research, Research

I’m researching how to do things “the right way” (like setting up this blog), instead of just winging it all like I did before. I would 100% suggest putting some time into research before jumping into things. I’ve already seen positive results (followers! Thank you to all who followed 🙂 ) since having my blog running for only one week!

Research is important so you have useful knowledge before getting started, but don’t make the mistake of waiting forever to actually begin working. Too much research may leave you feeling overwhelmed and unmotivated, and then you might give up. I can’t say how long you’ll need to research; as long as you get the basics down, you can probably start as soon as possible, and keep learning as you go.

Before I launched this blog, I spent maybe a couple weeks (?) doing research on the basics of good blogging, meaning I’d started a WordPress blog, setting up the design, pages, and a few blog posts, but kept it private until it was ready for the world. I can’t say I did everything correctly, but I tried my best to implement what I learned. And I’m glad I did because I have a better understanding of the behind-the-scenes stuff, and what works and what doesn’t work.

Break Your Goal Into Steps

So, make your goals clear, broken down into steps. It’s fine not to know exactly what you want to do, but don’t let that stop you from working on something. Learn a new skill, see if you like it. Even if you don’t want to continue with it, at least you learned something and hopefully, you can apply some of that knowledge toward whatever you do next.

I’ll admit to not actually writing my goals down and breaking them into steps; my plan lives in my head and in confusing notes on my computer. I need to fix that. If that works for you, though, then all the power to you! It’s been okay for me so far, but I’d rather see a clearly laid out plan in place.

You + Confidence = Success

But, to even get started with anything, you need to believe in yourself. The next step is to get started and work consistently toward your goals. But under all of the hard work, deep down, the thing fueling that work is that little light inside of you, that bossy (or quiet) voice shouting at you to keep going. It’s all up to that.

I mean, since we need cheering on, it might as well be you, right? You’re the person who knows you the best, after all.

What has helped you to believe in yourself? How has believing in yourself changed your life? Inspire me in the comment section!

 

[Photo by Bryan Minear on Unsplash]

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3 Replies to “Believing in Yourself – The Key to Success”

  1. I relate to this a lot and it seems we are on a similar journey. It was definitely a difficult moment when I realized how much my own self-confidence was hurting me. In my opinion, I don’t think we lose self-confidence as much as we train ourselves to be self-confident about the worst beliefs in ourselves. Getting out of it took, as you said, research, starting small and practicing.

    I’m still not the person I want to be but I am closer than ever before. So hang in there and stay persistent you are on a wonderful journey 🙂

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